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2021.10.16 17:43 Fake_Disciple he caught a mouse
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2021.10.16 17:43 ojustathrowaway How do I tell my annoying friend that his behaviours are inappropriate?
I need some advice about how to approach having what will almost certainly be a difficult conversation with a close friend in a way that will be positive and supportive.
I've put a lot of stuff below about some of the things that my friend does that I want to talk to him about to illustrate some of what's going on – but this is far from all of the issues. And the reason that I want to have a talk with him and hopefully support him in making some changes isn't because “he's doing it wrong”, but because it's got to the point where the things he does are having an impact on me in a way that I really don't like.
I find myself feeling constantly annoyed, feeling the need to vent about him with other people who know him, and none of that is healthy or constructive. And I don't want to be a bitter, irritable person who bitches about their friends behind their backs. So I need to talk to him about the things that he does, and I need some advice on how best to do that so that we can be the best housemates and carry on enjoying our friendship (and also so that I don't murder him in his sleep).
So I have a friend – lets call him Mark. Mark is 33 and lives at home with his parents. We're going to move in together soon, and before we do that I need to have this talk with him about what my expectations and boundaries are.
When Mark was growing up one of his parents worked full time and the other was a stay-at-home parent. This parent was emotionally abusive, and will still to this day call Mark derogatory names and make jokes at his expense around company. Mark also has ADHD.
He lacks basic social etiquette skills, for example that he needs to use a tissue to blow his nose instead of making exaggerated snorting-gurgling-hacking sounds, or that he needs to change his clothes daily (especially his underwear), that he needs to wear appropriate clothing for the situation (ie that it's not fine to wear pyjamas to a restaurant), and his personal hygiene and personal grooming skills are lacking. I wonder if these issues come from having simply never been taught the skills. We all need to be guided into adulthood and taught what the social norms and expectations of our culture and society are, and I feel like Mark's parents probably failed to do this. One of them was busy working and looking after the home, and doing all the household chores, and the other was emotionally abusive and neglectful. Whatever the reason, it ends up with those around him (ie, me) having to tell him to use a tissue, or to stop making such disgusting noises so loudly. There are lot of other little habits that I won't list – but they're so frequent that whenever I'm hanging out with him I end up so disgusted that it feels like I'm constantly telling him to do things like wash his hands, pick up his clothes, put clothes on that aren't completely covered in holes, have a shower, put on deodorant, etc etc etc. This is so exhausting, and it doesn't make me feel good to be constantly nagging about really basic things to a grown-ass man. I feel like I'm being a dick constantly, and none of this shit is my responsibility. He needs to learn how to look after himself.
Mark has a lot of social anxiety. He doesn't deal with negative emotions very well. So he will worry a lot that he is pissing people off, or that a friend is acting a certain way because they're angry with him, and he tries to compensate by doing nice things for people that he thinks they want or need – but more often than not he gets these things wrong because he's not able to accurately anticipate the actual need because is so skewed by his own worries and fears, and he's too worried about these things to have an actual conversation with the person to determine what the problem might be. All of this means that when he does have an argument with a friend it feels like its the end of the world to him and he ends up in a crisis because all he can see is all of his efforts to get it right, all of the things he has done to “be nice”, and can't imagine that the situation will ever be resolved. This is obviously a lot of emotions, and they consume him entirely, and he is unable to see the effects that his emotions and behaviours have on those around him. Which have been a lot. And it kind of makes him a shitty friend at times, because he's so worried about all of this stuff that he avoids having real conversations. And when real conversations are needed to resolve a situation, or to be able to be there for a friend when they need him, he's not able to do that.
It feels like he sees himself as a monster (and he does actually make jokes about being a monster) – and so he behaves accordingly. It's like he is expecting a certain response from people to him – which is one of mild irritation, or to laugh at him, to treat him as the fool (which I've wondered whether this is a survival tactic that he learned to deal with his abusive parent – as long as he is acting like the fool his parent treats him/talks about him as then everything is fine? But that's my armchair psychologising so take with a bucket of salt lol). If he is treated differently to this (ie with respect) it's almost like he puts more effort into being annoying until he gets a response that he is more familiar with.
He doesn't seem to have any confidence or pride in himself. He certainly takes no pride in his appearance, or how other people might see him.
I don't know if all of these disgusting and annoying habits and behaviours are because he doesn't realise how he's acting – in which case I need to tell him. Or if it's part of his ADHD – in which case I need to be supportive and understanding, and encouraging of learning some new and more appropriate behaviours and skills. Or if it's part of an underlying developmental condition, like autism – but I'm not convinced that he does have autism. I've wondered it in the past, and I'm not an expert and absolutely not qualified to rule it in or out, and while I also understand that autism is a spectrum, he doesn't seem to have any of that “classical” presentations of autism. And to be honest speculation of that isn't helpful or relevant. The point is that he is more than capable of improving all of the things that I've mentioned – I think he just needs someone to point out that the behaviours and habits that he has aren't fine and that he needs to put some time and effort into making some positive changes in his life.
And I don't know how to bring it up to him in a way that won't make him feel like I hate him, or that he should hate himself, or that everyone he knows secretly thinks he's disgusting. I want to have a conversation in which, ideally, he comes out of feeling empowered and supported and excited about the future.
But fuck me I have no idea how to do that. Help reddit!! Many thanks.
I don't have a TL:DR sorry. My brain go bleruguuugggrrrrrr.
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2021.10.16 17:43 Lsaone Short assigned on Options spread?
I am new to options and trying to understand how IBKR handles short assignment of a speed.
Say long stock xyz 700, now ITM, Short 850 also now ITM. What happens if expiry is 3 months away and someone decides to excercise the short on IBKR?
From what I've read on their website and after calling them on the phone they WONT excercise the long to cover the short automatically and so they will start liquidating ny account to cover the short which means I could loose other positions etc automatically.
Does anyone that has gone through this know how quickly this happens? What if I'm on holiday away for a day and this happens, obviously I want them to use my long position to cover the short - not start destroying my account and other positions automatically.
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2021.10.16 17:43 GrossPet name a more iconic duo i'll wait
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2021.10.16 17:43 Iron_Striker103 /title command shows for only a split second
when ever the title command is supposed to show up like in bedwars games it shows up for like a second then it disappears this never happened to me before. this also happens to me with crying obsidian and lava dripping particles.... i use optifine
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2021.10.16 17:43 BandaidPenPapErclip Monikaaaa! (I purposely made her more realistic, what do you think?)
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2021.10.16 17:43 coloredpencill 23 [M4A] usap? hookup? friends?
Hi! Looking for someone. We can be anything depende sa vibe nating dalawa hahahaha 😆 hoping to meet new people.
About me: 5'9", bisexua, on the heavier side pero currently working on my weight condition (goods din if you're into physical activities hehe), foodie, into photography and reading novels.
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2021.10.16 17:43 May_B_2803 Am I the asshole for telling on my sister for sending nudes??
AITA for telling on my sister for sending nudes??
I am a 18 year college student and In the past at 15 I had gotten into trouble for sexting with man who was twice my age during then.It was a lot or stress and trouble for me and my parents and luckily I didn’t face any charges but the beatings, ranging from belts to sometimes with her fist or feet, I got from my mother along with being grounded were brutal and I learned my lesson and never did it again. Even for situations that weren’t serious as this when growing I would face the same beating when she was upset at me .Now In the present I found out my sister(12) has been sending nudes to a boy who is (15-16), she would ask and send them in return. She had lied and said she was 13 to him and even went to the point where they videocalled to do this. As someone who went thru a similar situation I know who much danger she could’ve put herself in and how she could’ve ruined her life before it started but I also know how cruel my mom could be when she would get upset for something like this especially with my sister seeing first hand how this could hurt her with me. Before When I had suspicions I sat and talked about how it was important to be careful exploiting yourself and I thought she would take it to heart (obviously she didn’t because this lasted months after I had talked to her)I don’t want my sister to fall to the same beatings I have. When my parents had confronted my sister I felt so horrible and scared because I didn’t want my sister to feel scared. I didn’t want her to face that pain and even tho I’m the one that caused it I also wanted to protect her when it went from punishment to child abuse. I stood beside her and made sure that my mother was unable to touch her or belittle her sometimes I would be the one taking the hit as my step father was trying to hold my mom back. My sister would be fussed at but she was never hit as much as I was till this has happened and she got so pissed at my sister.Was I wrong for telling my parents or should I have tried to talk to her a second time and try to help and not let them know??
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2021.10.16 17:43 MyOpinionsMakeYouMad Flashy pos 5?
2021.10.16 17:43 Immediate-Form-2262 Grif VS Michelangelo (Red vs Blue VS Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles)
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2021.10.16 17:43 Quininator2000 I see your copper golem and raise you this: The copper sentry
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2021.10.16 17:43 ChillOUT_LoFi [SG] [H] Logitech G915 TKL Tactile Mechanical Keyboard & OnePlus Buds (White) [W] PayPal
I'm selling both my Logitech G915 TKL (Tactile) mechanical keyboard and my unused OnePlus Buds in white.
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2021.10.16 17:43 bubblepoint1 The Vikings offensive line started off hot but are falling back to familiar territory. Might be Darrisaw szn.
2021.10.16 17:43 Velvet_Stegasaurus Next 4 weeks. Let's goooo!!
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2021.10.16 17:43 UnhappyRabbit7120 Washed pants because Petey Colada pooped on them, the second they’re on the drying rack he flies to them and poops
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2021.10.16 17:43 turtleycool38 In a relationship between a person who is a water sign and a person who is a fire sign, generally just going off sun sign element,.which person is likely to be the more emotional/emotionally unstable person in the relationship, water or fire?
2021.10.16 17:43 moidhater just realised how gross my voice is